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How to Fictionalise your own experiences

Quotefancy-5284671-3840x2160A comment on a recent blog post asked me if I had any advice for fictionalising one’s own experiences to be able to share them as stories a little more detached from oneself. So, I thought as I have done this quite a lot in many of my short stories I would share a little on how that process works for me, hopefully it will be helpful to others attempting to do this. Continue reading “How to Fictionalise your own experiences”

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My Essure Story

Today I want to share something a bit different with you. This is my story of having Essure sterilisation, it’s rather long but as anyone who has suffered through essure will tell you, the whole story needs to be told… Continue reading “My Essure Story”

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What do you do when you’re not writing?

Of course, most of us writers are not fortunate enough to have landed a publishing contract that allows us to give up our full time jobs, so work takes up most of our time, leaving very little for writing as it is, but sometimes we want, or need, a break from writing too, so what do you do when you aren’t writing? I’d love to know!

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Ending relationships – Is it BPD?

I hate you - don't leave me.  Image by Kaoxita - Deviant  (
I hate you – don’t leave me.
Image by Kaoxita – Deviant

A diagnosis of BPD is not something to be taken lightly, it is life altering, in many ways.

Increasingly I am finding that people are contacting me through my blog regarding their relationship difficulties. Mainly the end of a relationship that has been quite turbulent or toxic, most often the person breaking off the relationship in these scenarios is a woman, and nearly every message includes reference to a concern that the ‘ex’ in question had/has BPD. I apologise if you have recently written to me about something like this, you may not like what you are about to read, but it’s nothing personal about anyone who has contacted me, just a general observation and attempt to clarify things a little…

I recognise that writing this post is likely to bring a few attacks and trolls around, but I need to share it anyway, I’m ready for the hate mail!

I think it is time to address a few key points about BPD and relationships…

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